An Introduction To Feeling F*cked up, Insecure, Neurotic & Emotional Around Food

At 30, single, unemployed & fighting an ongoing battle with food, friends would check in to ask how I was doing.

I’d reply with a meek ‘I’m fine.’ 

My head tilt and soft smile ached that we wouldn’t dive deeper into my hot mess of a life. I’ve had an imperfect path of recovery from food issues, and when I am asked a simple question, I respectfully give a simple answer - no matter how much I am lying to them or myself. My ‘I’m fine’ response was robotic; a knee jerk reaction to keep my feelings and any judgement at bay. 

But my ears perked up when I heard another definition for ‘fine’ - F*cked Up, Insecure, Neurotic & Emotional - this was me!

For the first time, I felt seen. I felt understood. This definition of fine effectively communicated what I could not, or maybe wasn’t ready to say. So, let’s be real: At 30, single, unemployed & fighting an ongoing battle with food, I felt f*cked up, insecure, neurotic & emotional. Now that’s more like it! This definition was not negative in tone, it was a sigh of relief! I could name the embarrassment of still struggling with food, the worry of not being where I ‘should be’, the feelings of not being enough, the rolling narrative of self-doubt.

This got me thinking - 

What if people spoke more honestly about their food struggles? 

What if people weren’t scared to say how they are really feeling? 

What if saying you felt fucked up, insecure, neurotic or emotional was met with head nods, smiles & praise hand emojis?! 

I’m tired of feeling alone in my food struggles, especially because I know I’m not. 

So, I’m creating a new platform and community for women who feel FINE called weFINE. 

We for the collective group, FINE for the fucked up, insecure, neurotic & emotional feelings around life & food. 

My hope is that through open, honest & revealing conversations via weFINE private Facebook Group (link in bio to subscribe to my email list for access), we begin to embrace our FINE feelings to see we are not alone. 

We shed stigmas & remove the shame associated with the spectrum of food issues & rebrand the conversation around ‘recovery’ to acknowledge we are stronger for feeling all things FINE, and not let the emotions define us. 

I’ll share my story - the highs, lows & daily hiccups along the way around all things FINE & food - and the story of other women, experts in the space, soundbites from therapy sessions, you name it. 

weFINE is here to give a voice to what we’ve held secret for so long, and a community to the loneliness we’ve felt.

There is a life to live in between meals, and I want to bring people along for the journey to find it!

If this message resonates with you or someone you know, please tag them below or have them follow the account: wefine__.

Big Love xoxo!