I’m so glad you’re here and poking around. Let me make it worth your while & tell you a little bit about myself.
The battle with my body has taken on many labels throughout the years — anorexic, restriction, exercise addict, perfectionist, vegan, depressed, anxious, emotional - the label was there to define what I couldn’t put to words.
I thought there was one right way to live life & be happy, and I must be doing it wrong.
I was anorexic throughout high school, college & early 20s - I had a good run. I categorize those years as being ‘in it’. I needed to learn to eat food & nourish my body properly, and wasn’t able to focus on living life to the fullest, I just needed to eat to live.
I’ve gone the therapy route, hospital route, rehab to sober living route, 12 Step Program for Alcoholics Anonymous & Overeaters Anonymous (yes, you sub under eating or food as your addiction) & believe with each program or path, I would take what applies & leave the rest. Unfortunately, I was left a lot unanswered around how to have a healthy relationship with food.
Fast forward to turning 30, finding myself single, unemployed & attending a friend’s baby shower most Sunday afternoons. Not exactly thriving.
With my life up in the air, skipping meals, extra workouts & restriction was a familiar safety net I could rely on. As friends asked how I was doing, I’d replied with meek ‘I’m fine,’ hoping to avoid further questioning. But my ears perked up when I heard another definition for ‘FINE’ - F*cked Up, Insecure, Neurotic & Emotional - this was me!
For the first time, I felt seen. I felt understood. This definition of fine effectively communicated what I could not, or maybe wasn’t ready to say.
FINE in all its glory! This definition was not negative in tone, it was a sigh of relief! I could name the embarrassment of still struggling with food, the worry of not being where I ‘should be’, the feelings of not being enough, the rolling narrative of self-doubt.
Anorexia was about control, and feeling FINE was learning to let it go & live life on life’s terms — even when times were fucked up, insecure, emotional & neurotic — I could handle this.
This a-ha moment needed to be shared! But my friends, God love them, seemed to have their shit together. They weren’t struggling to get out of bed, career less and directionless. They weren’t getting ghosted daily from potential lovers on dating apps, and certainly weren’t laughing through the pain or flirting with old eating disorder behaviors - or were they??
Did other people feel this way? Were other people FINE too??! What has worked for them?
I don’t have a perfect path to recovery, but I have the passion to speak openly and honestly about my journey, my toolbox and my point of view around the fucked up, insecure, neurotic & emotional feelings we have around food.
In sharing my truth, and hopefully those of others, this community of women will support individual paths of living our best lives in between meals.
Please connect by sharing your email or slide into my DMs on Instagram via @weFINE__, I can’t wait to meet you!
Who is weFINE for?
weFINE serves women that struggle with their relationship to food.
What are food issues?
If you’ve got ‘em, I bet you know ‘em well ;)
The spectrum of disordered eating covers everything from the medically defined anorexia, bulimia, binge eating disorders to harmful behaviors around food like obsessive thinking, negative self talk, excessive exercise and/or anxiety around food.
weFINE supports everyone’s messy relationship with food, whether you’ve been diagnosed or not -- the struggle & FINE feelings are the same.
Why are you starting weFINE?
I am creating weFINE because I want this community of strong, badass women for myself, and I believe it can help others too!
In my journey, I saw a blank space for women suffering from food issues. Personally, when my f*cked up, insecure, neurotic & emotional feelings around food popped up, my options of outreach included:
My doctor - who saw me as a number and not a person.
My nutritionist - who would talk me through my meal plan, but not dive into the emotions behind the food.
My therapist - where I could talk through my feelings and still feel alone.
12 Step Meeting - which had a supportive community, but lacked my food struggles.
I saw a need for a more supportive and relatable platform for women who feel f*cked up, insecure, neurotic & emotional around food to connect with others that are operating at the same octave or have been there before.
In accepting ourselves for where we are - f*cked up & all - we can begin the process of owning our story and loving ourselves through the struggle to see strength & grace.
Are you a dietician or therapist?
No, far from it!
My only credentials include my experience & story around food struggles.
Why should I follow weFINE on Instagram?
My imperfect path to wellness was rooted in doctors, therapists & reading materials. I didn’t feel there were adequate resources or open conversations for the daily struggles one may have with food. Specifically, conversations that were free from promoting diet culture, workout regimens and recipe swaps.
My goal is to create a safe place for women to open up, share their vulnerability & find connectedness. Looking for my people!
Food struggles span far & wide, the weFINE Instagram will be our connecting thread (for now)!
What is expected of me if I join the weFINE community?
Sharing your story or reason for joining is not a requirement.
I do ask that you’re respectful & kind towards other members of the group.
What should I say to members?
First, I appreciate you joining & becoming a part of the weFINE community.
Please know there is no perfection here. This group is less about what you say, but rather focused on speaking honestly and openly about who we are, about what we’re feeling, and about our experience.
weFINE avoids placing blame, judgement or fixing problems. This is a space of listening & having the courage to share your own vulnerabilities for others to feel seen & understood.
How does weFINE help me?
weFINE is selfish in nature as I am creating this to help myself because I definitely don’t have it all figured out!
But really, I’d say - take what applies & leave the rest.
Not every story, journey or inspirational quote will resonate with you. Instead, I hope the act of being in community, feeling understood on a deeper level & sharing your truth will aid in your own healing.
Please connect by sharing your email for the latest newsletter, or slide into my DMs on Instagram via @weFINE__, I can’t wait to meet you!